Read about the recent blogpost by Timothy Tiah, 5 things couples need to know and figured that yeah, those are exactly what keep every couples going, with the term that both of them are still madly in love with each other of course.
With all sorts of articles regarding relationship out there, i was just clicking in to check what Tim has to say and offer with his happy married life. Reading just the first point i know im gonna have to finish the entire post.
I totally agree that insecurity is the biggest fear, point no.1. Im not sure about everyone but at least for me, elimination of insecurity is mandatory. If there is no trust, things are just not gonna work out for me. What is love if all you feel is insecure all the time? What is love when your other half keeps things from you and they tell you they need their privacy? And what is love when theres no trust between the two? And if the relationship keeps on going only because of the unwillingness of letting go, i dont know. Thats not love anymore. It's sarcastic when someone who declare to love you but cant even let go of the worthless privacy, to prove that you're way more important than anything else. It's just sarcastic.
Women often seem to be so complicated to men but no. We are simple, at least i think im simple. This is point no.2, men follow their heads, women follow their hearts. We truly love you and that's why we care to get upset. Or else why even bother getting all upset and ugly for you? So guys, try to feel how girls feel if there's any conflicts.
I kind of agree with point no.3 which is what he/she needs to know and what he/she doesn't. Of course there are small and not as important thing that you don't have to share but i still wish that both the husband and wife share everything with one another. Just like anything funny or happy or anything upset happen at work. Make sure to keep the both really connected and feel as if they are living in just one person.
And of course, point no.5, knowing that your husband/wife is always number 1. No matter if it's your work, your buddies, or anything. Your spouse is always the first person you should consider and taken care of. Of course i know how important making a living is...
BUT "never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life"
And thats my point of view into each of these points. Leave a text if you have something in mind. If you've probably noticed, yes point no.4 is left out(on purpose), because I'm going to write a new post entirely for the 5 language of love! And it's gonna be based on My Language of Love!
So stay tuned! xx
p/s: New favourite track (Though its not new): The Lumineers - Gale Song (Catching Fire soundtrack)